Some days I just feel like a big ole' pie...
And everyone wants a piece of me!
Seriously.
I see why so many people go through mid-life crises in their thirties and forties!
For the most part, I've gotten fairly good at being able to say no when I really need to, but there are times the guilt trips are loaded on like big ole' heaping mounds of whipped cream. Sometimes I load it on myself and sometimes I let the person I'm trying to say no to load it on for me. Either way... you get the point.
This is something I've struggled with most of my life. I want to be the nice girl. The girl who is always dependable, reliable, trustworthy, accountable. When I was younger and stayed home with kids all day, I had a little more flexibility to be able to do more. It's harder now. And yet, I continue to think I can still do what I did then plus work full time with a commute. Plus attend all of my middle and high school kids' concerts, ceremonies, meetings, etc. Thank heavens none of my kids play sports or I would be doomed! We did that for a couple of years and it about killed me.
So here's the part where I supposedly have something wise or profound to say, right?
I wish I had it in me, but I just don't have it today... I'm having a hard time seeing through all the whipped cream.
You wrote this for me today, huh. In the last two days I've said 'no' to two big things. One person continues to make me feel guilty. The other, understands completely.
ReplyDeleteI'm not good at just letting it go. I say yes just so I don't feel guilty but then I'm miserable that I'm so overwhelmed with too many things.
Never ending battle.
Cheer up, you're not alone. I've been sliced and diced and served down to the crumbs in the bottom of the pie tin. I guess you could say I'm feeling pretty crumby.
ReplyDeleteOh gosh... I used to be that way, too. Say "NO!" Seriously - just say NO!!!! I know, easier said than done. But you must realize that saying no does not make you a bad girl... It makes you smart. No one can do everything. Decide what is most important, and do the things that you are responsible for, then say NO to the rest (unless you really can and should do it). I don't mean to be bossy; I just want to encourage you and root for you!!!I had that disease, too. I hope I still don't have the "Yes, I'll do it" disease (it's hard to say, I'm not asked too much as of late, so I just hope I learned to say no). If I ever tell you I still do, just reminde me to say no, OK?
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Corine