Monday, January 23, 2012

The Divinity of Womanhood

I keep thinking about things going on around me and wondering how there can be so much sadness and heartache in the world today.  There has been another suicide in my small community.  They seem to be growing in frequency.  It seems to predominantly be men with young children at home.  It just breaks my heart.

I was discussing this with my mom and she mentioned that the suicide rate during the Depression in the 1930's was also quite high.  There is most definitely a correlation between financial burden and the rates of depression and suicide.  This has me pondering again.  I always wish I could find a way to solve the world's problems, even I though I know it is an impossibility.

I've been thinking about my role as a wife, mother, and as a woman in general.  What do I have to offer?  What is my role?  How can I help rather than hurt those around me?

It dawned on me that doing just that is helping the world around me.  As a woman, I've been blessed with that innate ability to feel compassion and to have a desire to nurture and help those around me.  It is part of my gender.  It is part of my divine nature.  It is part of every woman's divine nature.  These abilities are what make us good wives and mothers.  We are the caregivers of the world and that aspect of our gender makes us special and important.  There are some women who choose to abandon their femininity and work diligently to be more like men.  That is disheartening on so many levels.  It is important to embrace those innate characteristics that make us unique and distinct from men.

I wish we could have the best of both worlds where men and women respected each other and worked as partners in the building up of our society rather than battling to determine who is "better", "smarter", "stronger", "more... successful, competitive, or prestigious" than the other.  It has damaged us in so many ways.  Why can't we embrace the divine characteristics given to men as well as to women?  Why can't we work together as equal partners, each bringing our individual traits and characteristics to the table for the greater good?  I wish we could take the makings of successful marriages and transfer them to our corporations and governments.  It would solve so many problems.

But there will always be greed, pride, and selfishness in the mix.  Satan will be sure of that.  But there is no reason for it.  There is no place for it.  It only causes pain and heartache.

I find great comfort from the leaders of my church as they express their love for women and as they work to strengthen us and help us to see just how important we are and how much our Heavenly Father loves us.  I understand that men need the nurturing and love that only we as women can give them.  It is very difficult for them when they are not able to care for their families in one way or another.  It is difficult for them when they are under so much stress.  If they can come home to a loving, understanding, and compassionate wife who is their partner in the good times as well as in the bad, there would probably be fewer suicides.  They need the support of their wives.  It worries me that women are becoming crass and belittle their husbands.  It isn't good.  It is just as bad as a man who verbally abuses his wife.  It is no different.  Both are wrong and should not happen.

So I've determined to nurture my femininity.  I'm going to strive to be kinder, gentler, more compassionate and understanding.  I will strive to have a softer tone and to be less critical of my children and husband.  It will make my home a nicer place to be.  I am the mother.  I have a responsibility to be this way for my family.  As the women of the households, we have a way of setting the tone of the home.  I am going to try harder to help the tone of my home be better.  It won't solve the problems of the world, but in my own small way I will make the world a better place because my children will grow up and understand that having a happy home CAN change the world.

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4 comments:

  1. Ginger, Love this one today!! I also have noticed and increase in the number of suicides in my area. It is so sad. I really don't know how to change their beliefs, but I do admit that I need to keep trying. Maybe the words I write or speak will help to change one persons mind and heart. It is such a sad state that is all around us. Love your thought by James Faust. That would be a great print out for relief society.

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  2. Hi Ginger, :) I thought I commented on this one already. Anyhow, I LOVE this message! :) The family Proclamation talks about the roles of each gender, and has been a great blessing to me and my husband. I have noticed that when I nurture my feminine side, it greatly blesses my husband and our family, as well as myself. Men and women are so divinely created to compliment and care for one another. I have a quote I like to advertize on my blog about women and our feminine attributes...

    "Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity." ~ Margaret D. Nadald

    I know that when my husband and I remember our god given divine roles and divine attributes, and I focus on being feminine (he is always masculine :) - everything goes better. Life goes more smoothly. We are happier. We both strive to help each other with our individual roles. But I have learned the hard way that when I neglect my own feminine roles to help him with his masculine roles - it is NO HELP! :o I'm thankful for the Family Proclamation. It reminds me of where my top priorities need to be in order to bless my family most...

    I hope you have a great day!
    Corine :D

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    1. Thanks Corine! I almost used that quote in this post, but didn't... thanks for sharing it in your comment! :) I love that you said that "I have learned the hard way that when I neglect my own feminine roles to help him with his masculine roles - it is NO HELP!" This is very true. We have our own unique talents and abilities for a reason. :) Thanks for being such a great friend and for your kind and generous comments!

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  3. As sisters in Zion . . . Your post made me think of that song for some reason.:)
    thank you for this thoughtful post. Much needed today!

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